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Are you treating your team like a mechanism or an organism?

The thought I want to share with you today comes to us from a fairly unlikely place: English “philosophical entertainer” and popular interpreter of Buddhism, Alan Watts.


Watts proposes a useful distinction between organisms and mechanisms that is an excellent leadership insight:


“Mechanisms are built and organisms are grown.”




One of the mistakes leaders make (myself included) is to treat organisms as mechanisms.

As leaders, we often get stuck because we have a certain set of tools we’ve relied on for success in our mechanistically oriented world. We’re engineers who have solved engineering problems, coders who build software, safety professionals with deep wells of technical knowledge, and lawyers who sink or swim based on our expertise.

Yet when we become leaders, reaching for these old tools can leave us frustrated.

Those tools don’t work on people or organizations.

When leaders treat people as mechanisms, we rely on tools like incentives and try to control behavior.

“If only they would listen to us and do what we ask them to,” we sometimes think to ourselves, “this whole problem would be solved.”

But people are not built; we are grown. And as organisms, we thrive when we are in relationships with each other. And relationships and trust are what really get things to change.


We need to choose the right mode of operating for the right problem. It’s important because bringing the wrong tool to the job creates stress and friction, adds to resistance and dis-ease, and increases wear and tear.


I created The C.L.E.A.R. Path to Executive Leadership, a program crafted after in-depth research and work with hundreds of leaders at global organizations, to help leaders grow their awareness and bring the right tools to the challenges they face.


The C.L.E.A.R. Path to Executive Leadership is a 12-week-long journey designed specifically for busy leaders and emphasizes reflection, practice, and tools.


After this program, you will listen better, lead more confidently, empower others (while holding them accountable), and create cohesive and empowered teams with a unified vision so you can drive results.


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Leaders Need to Know It’s Not Their Fault

I work with leaders who are at a moment in their careers when they decide to take things to the next level, and I see the same struggles again and again:

 

  • Leaders who are daunted by the need to constantly lead change in their organization
  • Leaders who are frustrated with encountering resistance from others
  • Leaders who don’t know how to drive their vision forward, particularly when they’re a specialist in a bigger organization 

 

If this sounds like you, dear leader, here’s what I want you to know: 

 

It’s not your fault. 

 

Past a certain scale and complexity, you can’t lead through expertise or control.


You’re no longer facing technical challenges, you’re facing complex challenges, and you need to lead through these not by solving problems, but by building relationships and cultivating curiosity.  

 

You are doing the best you can with the tools that you have: a set of tools that has served you and your organizations incredibly well for your whole career, but now, you’re navigating growing complexity. The world can’t be easily understood anymore.

 

If you are someone who has led through control in the past, but now you recognize that answers are no longer enough, stop kicking yourself and watch my video:

Leaders Need to Know It’s Not Their Fault 

 

In this video, I share why so many of the leaders I work with transform their impact once they shift from expertise-based leadership to curiosity-driven leadership, and how you can do the same.  Answers are rarely the key to leading through complexity.  Instead, we need to grow our ability to influence others.  

 

You can’t be everywhere at once: answering every question, solving small problems, making sure everyone is following the new SOP — that will leave you stretched thin and unable to lead effectively.

 

That’s why I created The C.L.E.A.R. Path to Executive Leadership, a program crafted after in-depth research and work with hundreds of leaders at global organizations. The C.L.E.A.R. Path focuses on strengthening key skills that every leader benefits from: Curiosity, Listening, Empowerment, Accountability, and Results. 

 

If you are leading change, and this sounds like something that could help you with your challenge, I’d love to hear from you. Click here to book a free 30-minute diagnostic call with me where you can tell me about the challenges you’re facing. Together, we can talk about how you’re trying to create lasting change in your organization. 

 

Book a free call with me here.

 

We’ll talk about your challenges and what kind of support you might need for the next part of your journey. In half an hour you could be unlocking new dimensions of how you can lead.

 

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Using The Friendly OODA Loop To Work with Resistance

My five-year-old was under the table, snuggled in his blanket, sucking his thumb with his favorite stuffy. 

 

Cute, right?

 

The only problem was that we were going to be late to school. Again. 

 

So, I pushed. I cajoled. Maybe, in a moment of weakness, I even tried to bribe. 

 

The worst thing is it seems like this happens every day. 

 

One of the things I notice about life is that I’m often interacting with the world as I wish it was instead of the world as it is. That can be a pain in the ass. 

 

I’ve heard this phrase in Buddhism as, “resistance to reality is the source of all suffering,” though dissatisfaction may be a better word.

 

I see this all the time in my approach to parenting. Boy, do I wish my five-year-old would move faster in the morning. Getting him out the door can be stressful, and ironically, that stress actually makes him move slower. Ugh. 

 

So, why does it keep happening every day? Because I’ve been trying to push things forward as I want them to be instead of working with things as they actually are.

 

This happens in our organizations too—when we make changes to the ways we work, when we ask team members to take on new roles or responsibilities, or when we try to lead with a power-down approach.

 

The lesson in business here is about dealing with resistance, and today, I’m going to teach you a tool to work with resistance more skillfully. 

 

Last time I shared with you the OODA loop — Observe, Orient, Decide, Act. 

 

Externally, we can use the OODA loop to disrupt our competition by orienting ourselves around changes in the external world.

 

In this video, I want to share the “friendly” OODA loop—the use case of the OODA loop that applies to our own organizations. We can call on it when we’re leading a change that involves humans (i.e. a situation that can create resistance). It’s both useful as a planning tool and as a way to influence people.

 

 

By considering how people might be impacted by a proposed change and understanding their orientation, we as leaders can engage with them in a supportive manner and help their orientation align with our desired outcome.

 

When we start to see resistance as data about a problem and learn to work with the resistance we encounter, we’ll build stronger relationships and get more done. That means we can do our work and lead our teams with more ease. We get to solve bigger problems and have greater influence to really change the way our organizations work.  That increased effectiveness gets us noticed and can bring us even more satisfying work, promotions, wealth, and ease.

The friendly OODA loop can really help you understand your impact on others and work around resistance to get collaboration and buy-in. Working skillfully with resistance is one of the most important abilities a modern leader needs. 

 

If you want more resources on how to better work with resistance, I invite you to watch my free video on Understanding the Levels of Resistance. It’s short and it sheds light on the different types of resistance you might encounter from shareholders or people on your team.

 

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Rise of the Machines: How to Keep AI from Terminating Your Business

The era of machine learning is upon us, whether we want it or not. Every week provides us with new stories about developments in artificial intelligence, and new fears regarding its implications for us.

 

Driverless cars! Authorless stories! Cyber lawyers!

 

From the spectacular arrival of AI art programs like Midjourney and DALL-E to the even more earth-shattering evolution of ChatGPT, it is hard to imagine any industry being able to escape disruption by the inevitable rise of the machines.

 

Chatbots are passing the bar exam, helping students cheat, and assisting us in planning our travel itineraries. They can be taught to code, taught to order our favorite foods when we need them, they can even (terrifyingly) be taught to love.

 
Disruptions Happen.
 

The birth of AI is a thrilling but frightening thing to behold. Even in its early stages, we are already witnessing capabilities that seemed like pure sci-fi less than a decade ago, and its rate of evolution is so rapid it is almost impossible to predict where we will be ten years from now.

 

The legal industry is undergoing significant changes, with AI and legal chatbots being employed in contract review, drafting, dispute resolution, and predictive analytics.

 

These external shifts lead to internal disruptions within companies, necessitating changes in structure and management approaches that are required in response to industry pressures and competitive shifts. 

 

In the face of such a disruptive force, it’s easy to succumb to overwhelm, uncertainty, and a doom-and-gloom worldview. 

 

With artificial intelligence disrupting our industries, and even our art, what will be left for us to do? 

 

You may be left questioning:

 

As a senior leader, how can I prevent the introduction of AI from making my company defunct within my industry? What does it mean for my team and for the way we do business now?

 

The good news is, although we are approaching uncharted territory now, we have been in uncharted territory many times before, and while there are always winners and losers, agile actors find ways to rise to the top during times of disruption and upheaval. Less than thirty years ago, the internet came along and disrupted business as usual, as did the inventions of the personal computer and the pocket calculator before that, all the way back to 1450 AD and the invention of the printing press!

 

The Bleeding Edge

 

E-commerce platforms such as Amazon, Etsy, and Shopify continue to disrupt traditional retail, with Amazon using data from their operations to manufacture generic products, creating a unique feedback loop. To compete, some major retailers, like Walmart and Target built out robust online stores to coexist alongside their brick-and-mortar locations. Other companies, like Bed Bath and Beyond failed to capitalize on the growing market for online sales and are now paying the price. 

 

Entertainment and media were revolutionized by streaming services like Netflix, which brought movies directly to our TVs—often simultaneously with theatrical releases. This new business model brought about the end of the video store era and began to threaten the bottom line of many film studios and TV networks. Desperate to capitalize on the streaming market, or to hang on to as much of their IP as possible, networks like ABC and NBC are now hosting their own platforms, offering subscribers now-exclusive content that could previously be found on Netflix, Hulu, or Amazon Prime.

 

External shifts lead to internal disruptions within companies, necessitating changes in structure and management approaches that are required in response to industry pressures and competitive shifts. 

 

The point isn’t to resist that disruption is happening—it’s to learn how to work with it and how to get ahead of things. The strongest leaders are the ones who will be able to lead their organizations through the change of creative disruption. 

 

Facing the Unknown

 

GPT epitomizes the classical definition of disruptive innovation. It is inexpensive, often “good enough,” and has deep expertise in certain content areas. It is poised to revolutionize how we work with and process electronic data. If we want to stay relevant in our respective industries, we cannot run from the future, we need to learn how to embrace it.

 

To thrive amid disruption you need to understand resistance.

 

By paying attention to what’s disrupting your industry and learning to work with it skillfully, you can set yourself and your organization up for longevity and success. One of the key skills you need to succeed amid disruption is the ability to share what you see and work more skillfully with others’ resistance. 

 

By getting better at working with resistance, you’ll be able to react and respond to it more quickly. You’ll work with more ease—having fun instead of banging your head against the wall. And you’ll stand out as someone who’s able to lead your organization forward in challenging times.

 

I work with a lot of clients who I consider “visionary.” This doesn’t mean that they want to live on Mars (but boy does that guy need some support at keeping his stuff together), but it does mean that they see things about their organizations that others don’t see. A lot of these people start by swimming upstream—but there are techniques they can use.

 

Because leading through disruption is a team sport—it’s not something you can do alone, no matter how much power you have—you’ll have to bring others on the journey. 

 

Here are three things you might try if your team needs help adapting to new, “disruptive” tech:

  

  • Show Cause – If your folks can’t see the challenge that new technologies and ways of operating pose, they won’t be prepared to work with you on solutions. By paying attention to what’s disrupting your industry and learning how to point it out and explain the issue in easy-to-understand terms, you can set yourself and your organization up for longevity and success.
  • Start Small – I’m often talking with my clients about the minimum meaningful unit of experiment: the need to try a change on the smallest unit where you can gather meaningful data and get meaningful results.

    As you learn, you can go bigger, but changes that start big—especially in a fast-moving environment—often fail.
  • Listen Deeply Most leaders’ default approach to resistance is to try and overcome it, to get buy-in or, if that fails, to mandate that others comply with the change.

    “I know you don’t like this, but you have to sell it to your team. Eat your vegetables. They’re good for you. You’ll learn to like them.”


    This kind of power-based approach to getting things done has a place, but not when you need to change how you operate. Instead of trying to overcome resistance, engage with it.
    Start by using
    curiosity.

    “Here’s what I’m seeing; what are you seeing?”

    This approach creates the opportunity for a true dialogue, which builds relationships and enables you to lead others on their journey.

By getting better at working with resistance, you’ll be able to react and respond to it more quickly. You’ll work with more ease—because you’ll be having fun instead of banging your head against the wall, and you’ll stand out as someone who’s able to lead your organization forward into new frontiers.

 

If you’re someone who wants to lead your organization through all the changes that are required these days, start by engaging with the resistance you meet.

 

Learning to engage with resistance isn’t easy—it’s one of things I spend a lot of time coaching my clients through. But if you want a head start, check out this free short video: Understanding the Levels of Resistance.

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How do you get things done when you’re not in charge?

How often do you feel powerless at work? Like you’re being asked to do something that you can’t actually accomplish given your position and the rules around how your organization works.


If you’re like many of the leaders I work with, you’re often accountable for creating results beyond what’s under your direct control. And you’re embedded in a culture that demands answers to complex problems, like, yesterday.


That’s a paradox because having answers doesn’t actually help you influence others. In many cases, showing up with an answer actually creates resistance.


I run a monthly coaching group called Lead Curious that works with this challenge. Why is it called Lead Curious? Because the most effective way to expand your influence is by asking curious questions.


It seems counterintuitive, but it’s the secret weapon at the heart of my work with leaders of the world’s biggest and most interesting organizations.


If you’re trying to influence someone, you have to start by understanding what they care about. If you’re asking someone to do something for you, or give up something that they value, you need to build trust so that you are on the same team.


How can you do that?


Share your agenda… but start with theirs.


You have an agenda. Share it, but don’t hold it tightly.


“You probably know that I’ve been asked to support better collaboration across our teams, but before we get to that, I’d like to understand a little bit more about what’s up for you. What are the most important things you’re working on right now?”


Acknowledge challenges without offering solutions.


Many cultures don’t support this behavior, but it’s so important. You can even acknowledge those norms as you seek support:


“I know we love solutions. I wish I had a solution for this, but I feel stuck. What do you think are some of the barriers to collaborating?”


Name things, particularly feelings (and be curious about how those feelings land with others).


This one is my favorite because it is so simple. Sometimes simply saying things out loud helps us shift the conversation. For example, if you’re working with another team that appears to agree about an issue in principle but drags its feet on implementation, you can name that:


“We’ve all said that we agree that more collaboration is better, but I’m worried we’re not taking meaningful steps to resolve this situation. Do you all share that worry?”


It can be hard to be the first person to show vulnerability in a work culture that still considers it a weakness, but it’s disarming, and it builds trust—quickly.


When you can let go of showing up with the right answer, you can start to grow your influence and co-create solutions to complex challenges faster. You’ll learn that you have more power than you think you do.


There’s no trick to these approaches—but that doesn’t make them easy. They require practice and the willingness to experiment. So forward this to an interested colleague, find a good coach, and start practicing.


And if you’re interested in practicing these approaches with fellow leaders, the next session of Lead Curious will launch in late 2022. Stay tuned here.

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The Subtle Art of Disappointing People

Leaders these days face a constant struggle to manage their energy.

 

For many of the leaders I work with, an onslaught of meetings obliterates time for focused work or sustained discussion.

 

For many others, an inordinate amount of energy goes into managing other people’s reactions. Predicting, like a chess master attuned to relationships, how others will feel about their decisions. Not just their bosses or peers but the people they lead, too.

 

In particular, this shows up when I’m working with leaders who are guiding change in their teams.

 

Change is hard. It involves shifting from a known state to an unknown one, from certainty to uncertainty.

 

And it involves disappointing people.

 

Disappointing people doesn’t mean being insensitive to what others want. But it does mean not owning their reactions—as strong as they may be—when they don’t get what they want.

 

I recently worked with a leadership team of a support function that had been working in an unsustainable way. The services they provided to their internal customers were broad and bespoke, and the team lacked a structured workflow. As a result, their team was getting burnt out and lacked the bandwidth to tackle the strategic work needed to improve their workflows.

 

But even in this context, leaders were worried that a shift to a new way of working might create fear and insecurity. Some employees liked the way they worked because they got to show up in heroic ways for their internal customers, getting things done at any cost. Others feared that, after restructuring, there wouldn’t be enough work to justify keeping them around.

 

Rather than get stuck predicting reactions to a change, this leadership team ran a participatory process. They shared the problem as they saw it and got curious about the perspective of their team. They outlined new ways of working, seeking input from the team and their internal clients.

 

Ultimately, they made a decision about how to move forward. They were open about the fact that they didn’t know exactly how things were going to play out and that they would learn and adjust over time. They were also clear about their decision.

 

Rather than managing everyone’s reactions, they used what I call strategic disappointment to move forward with clarity.

 

They shared that some folks would not be able to do their job the way they always had: Heroes couldn’t be heroes anymore.

 

They acknowledged that not everyone would like that—and that they were OK with disappointing people because they thought it was ultimately in everyone’s best interests.

 

And, since they had been asked their views along the way, people were mostly OK with that. They were participants in the process so, even if the outcome wasn’t the one they wanted, they got it. This was as true for the team as it was for their internal clients.

 

Instead of tying themselves in knots, trying to please everyone and manage to exception, the leadership team moved forward with energy.

 

The benefits of disappointing people do not just emerge during change. When you know that you’re going to say no to something—to a team member’s bid for a new role, to a hiring candidate you don’t think is the right fit, or to a request from a cross-functional partner—channel Nancy Regan and just say no.

 

Perseverating drains energy and serves no one. As the Dali Lama (supposedly) said, “Resistance to reality is the source of all suffering.”

 

What about you? Do you struggle to disappoint people?

 

If so, how might you make a shift so you’re managing your energy instead of others’ expectations? Email me at [email protected] and let me know.

 

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