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Implementing Change Without Weirding Out Your Team

As a change maker, you have a lot of tension to manage. 

 

Leaders are rewarded and promoted for results, so in theory, going against the grain and doing things that get you better results is good. 

 

On the other hand, there’s a fine line between subverting a process and being in noncompliance with it.

 

We kind of know this instinctively: unless you’re in an organization that tolerates a lot of difference and a lot of diversity, you can’t stand out too much. 

 

But if you can effectively manage this tension between being tasked with getting better results, and not being “too weird,” you will see tremendous value. You will learn faster, work with more creativity, get more done with less stress, and build stronger relationships with the people you work with. 

 

Learn more about how to manage this tension better by watching my video: 4 Tactics for Implementing Change Without Weirding Out Your Team.

 

 

If this resonates with you and you’re interested in learning a new way of leadership and bringing it into practice in your organization, let’s chat.

 

Click here to book a free leadership exploration call. We’ll focus on your context and your challenges to see whether what we’re doing in the C.L.E.A.R. Path to Executive Leadership might be a good fit for you.

 

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Bottlenecked: Complexity and Risk in Simple Operations

When I first started out in the business world, I would dream of the day I had my own water cooler in my office. I don’t know why — I just always felt like having one would be a sign that I was finally successful.

 

Well, I finally got a brand new, space-age, state-of-the-art water cooler, and I’ve got to say, they’ve changed a lot since the clunky, gravity-fed dinosaurs of days gone by. You know the ones — the water bottle was up top, and you’d have to maneuver it into place, and you’d always spill a little bit, but once it was up there, gravity did the rest of the work. Crude, but simple.

 

My new system has a pump, so the water container can go underneath it, which is nice and convenient, but I just know that someday this pump is going to fail. It might be five years from now, it might be five months from now, but someday it will break, and I’ll need a specialist to come fix it.

 

I asked my water distributor, and he told me that not only is the water cooler company dealing with technical problems and issues with inter-team communication, but it’s also dealing with a costly staffing shortage!

 

Even simple business models with few functions encounter unexpected risk and complexity. Things catch you by surprise. I bet until this year, or until very recently, my water cooler company was not even thinking about staffing as one of their key risks. And yet, as the labor market changes, you still need to get water into people’s offices.

With capability comes complexity, which is something I talk about in Meltdown.

Complexity can arise in even the most unexpected places, which is exactly what I ponder in my newest video. Here’s something a simple conversation with a water delivery agent taught me about the unexpected risk of operating a business:

 

 

In Meltdown, we talk about the paradox of progress and how capability adds complexity. There’s always going to be risks out there that you can’t consider.  

 

We have a free sample chapter available here. 

 

Check it out if you haven’t read it yet, and if you have, leave a comment about something you’ve taken away from it. 

 

With that, I’ll say thank you for your attention, and I’ll see you next time.

 

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The Risk of Moving Too Quickly Toward Solutions

One of the hardest leadership missteps to unlearn is the tendency to move too quickly toward solutions.

 

We see a problem and want it resolved immediately.

 

A question arises and we need an answer, fast!

 

But reacting to a situation before it is better understood places us at risk of missing critical context, which can lead us to make preventable mistakes.

 

When we move too quickly towards solutions, we’re at risk of a few things:

  1. Offering a solution to the wrong problem
  2. Moving forward with the wrong solution to the right problem
  3. Solving the right problem with the right solution but without bringing your team along

 

Why is it so hard to resist jumping right into solutions? There’s something really challenging about not moving forward. As leaders, we crave action and it’s hard to keep in mind that stillness isn’t the same as being stuck, and that not everything needs to happen immediately.

 

A lot of leadership — particularly in complex organizations—is about staying in the space of the undefined, and yet I still struggle when I’m confronted with uncertainty! It’s a lesson I need to reconnect with on a regular basis and a challenge that I’ve confronted with varied levels of success throughout my career.

 

If you recognize a tendency to move too quickly toward solutions in your own complex organizations, or if you are part of a team that struggles with patience when faced with uncertainty, check out my video:

 

Many Leaders Move too Quickly Toward Solutions

 

 

 

In it, I share about a recent situation where I failed to heed my own advice, what it cost me, and what I recommend to fellow leaders when it comes to digging deeper instead of jumping straight to solutions.

 

 

If you want to avoid more missteps in your leadership journey, check out my free guide: Three Mistakes Leaders Make with Change. I developed this guide to help the leaders I work with create better influence, work effectively with resistance they encounter from the team members and stakeholders, and identify pitfalls that prevent them from co-creating better solutions to complex problems. It’s a really valuable read that I believe will help you start to identify patterns that are keeping your change effort stalled.

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What Too Much Toast Taught Me about the Paradox of Change

I feel vulnerable telling you this, but there have been periods in my life where I’ve eaten a lot of buttered toast. At night, after a long day at the office, I’d get home and just devour toast with too much butter. As I’m eating the toast, I wouldn’t say I’m particularly happy about it.

 

Eventually, I hit what I now call my “Peak Toast” period, eating six, sometimes seven slices a night.

 

It was getting out of hand. 

 

The Paradoxical Theory of Change

 

During this time, I was also learning about the Paradoxical Theory of Change, the concept that change happens when you stop focusing on the person you want to become and instead turn your attention to who you are now, and the reasons for your current behaviors. By paying attention to your present experiences, thoughts, and feelings, you can learn new ways to support the hidden motivations behind your behaviors, and ultimately, the change will occur as a natural process. 

 

This way of looking at my problem helped me discover the reasons behind my actions—helped me to ask myself, “Alright, let’s make this real. What’s the value I get from eating all this toast?” 

 

If you’ve found yourself wrestling with behaviors antithetical to the person you want to be and want to hear more about what the Paradoxical Theory of Change can teach you about leadership, watch my video: Peak Toast.

 

 

The Paradoxical Theory of Change isn’t just a powerful tool for self-realization, it can also help you work through situations in the workplace where you are running into resistance from others. 

 

Are you trying to drive organizational changes, but team members or stakeholders just aren’t there with you? Pay attention to the Paradoxical Theory of Change and turn your attention to the behaviors you see right now instead of focusing solely on the changes you’re driving.

 

Curious how you can enroll your team in your change vision? So many leaders I know struggle with team members and stakeholders who either don’t see the vision or don’t like it. They encounter resistance. Some of my most impactful work comes from helping leaders develop the skills of influence they need to create cohesive, empowered teams. It all starts with learning how to work with resistance effectively. My free video Understanding the Levels of Resistance teaches you some of my best strategies for working with resistance. Download it now.

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How Working Flat Saved a Life

Robert, a large, muscular man in his sixties, arrived for a routine checkup at his dentist’s office in downtown Toronto. Robert had always preferred an 8:00 a.m. appointment and was never late. And he always looked healthy and full of energy when he walked into the waiting room and greeted Donna, the office’s longtime receptionist.

 

But when Donna saw him that morning, something didn’t feel right to her. His face was red, and he was sweating. She sat him down and asked if he was okay. “Yeah, I’m fine,” he told her. “I just didn’t sleep well. I had indigestion. And my back hurts a little.” He had looked up his symptoms online, but he didn’t want to bother his doctor.

 

It sounded innocent enough, but Donna had a strange feeling that something was amiss. Though the dentist, Dr. Richard Speers, was in the middle of performing a procedure on another patient, she went in to see him. “Dick, Robert is here, and something just doesn’t feel right to me. Can you come out and take a look at him?”

 

“I’m really busy right now,” Speers replied.

 

“I really think you should see him,” Donna insisted. “Something isn’t right.”

 

– From Meltdown, by András Tilcsik and I (Penguin Press 2018)

 

 

“Something isn’t right.”

 

That phrase saved Robert’s life that day, but what if the work culture at the dental practice had been different?

 

What would have happened if Dr. Speers had continued to ignore Donna on the basis of her being a receptionist rather than a medical professional? What if Donna had second-guessed herself when Dr. Speers told her how busy he was? What if Donna felt too psychologically unsafe at work to mention her concerns at all?

 

And what can we learn from this as we think about our own businesses?

 

Today I’m going to talk about working flat, an approach to leadership that will help you create an empowered, cohesive team that drives better results with less stress and burden on you. As a result, you’ll be able to lead with less frustration and move forward with ease.

 

I’ve seen how transformative this approach has been for both big teams at global companies and functional leaders at professional services firms.

 

What is Working Flat?

 

Working flat is the concept of structuring a team with as little hierarchy as possible to promote psychological safety, open communication among all team members, and transparency regarding decisions, experiments, and errors. Working flat calls on the team to collaborate and remain engaged in their process so they can do their best work.

 

This isn’t a call for anarchy, there are still chief decision-makers in a flat system, they are just more accessible to the rest of the team and more open to advice and suggestions from people involved in all parts of a process.

 

Working flat tills the soil so that good ideas can emerge and take root.

 

The imperative to work flat on complex problems is based on the notion that a great deal of knowledge and experience are distributed through a team. You never know where the next good idea will come from. Beyond that, working flat is about the belief that complex problems are too wicked and fast-moving to be solved by siloed expertise.

 

Modern leadership involves a shift toward co-creation and away from bringing individual solutions. This is important because it can help us “take the pressure off” and re-frame our work as creating the context for success rather than needing to do everything ourselves.

 

Flattening Your System

 

If you’re reading this and recognizing the need to adopt more flat practices in your business, here are a few easy ways to start shifting:

 

Provide rich context—​Listening to the perspectives of your team members and sharing your perspective with them are crucial elements of getting them to buy into your plans. As organizations scale, it becomes harder to assure that information is being effectively cascaded across departments and teams. Sharing your context makes it easier to work with resistance and enroll others in your vision. Be transparent with your teams; make sure they understand the goals of the organization and what is being asked of them. If there is a big change being implemented and it is being met with resistance, take note of what your people are concerned about and why they are concerned, then address those concerns.

 

Have your team go to the work—​Going to the Genba, also known as “Management By Flying Around,” is a practice used by Toyota and other companies to keep leaders aware of the differences between how they imagine the work and how it actually gets done. It means going to the places where the dirty work happens, walking around and observing what’s going on, listening to what people are talking about, and building relationships with other teams.

 

Get on the same page—​Learn which objectives are most important to your boss. Ask them: “What are your objectives here?” or “What are you hoping to get from the projects that are on our team’s plate? Find out what your boss cares about so you can get on the same page.

 

Ask questions instead of giving answers—People will come to you for answers and it will be tempting to try to give them one, even if you aren’t really sure what to do yet. ​Resist the urge to come up with an answer for them. Instead, ask questions. Be curious and open-ended; make it safe to experiment.

 

Don’t require bravery for people to speak up—​Creating a psychologically safe team that feels comfortable sharing their thoughts with upper management takes a lot of work, but it can really pay off in the long run. Organizations that cultivate a culture of curiosity are more likely to have team members who are willing to say something when they notice a problem, make a mistake, or think of a better way of doing things.

 

That said, there’s no need to rush your teams into uncomfortable conflicts. Working flat is a shift. Don’t start by requiring junior members to challenge senior people or old dogma. Demonstrate the kind of culture you want to see. Start building trust and demonstrating your own vulnerability by admitting you don’t know the answers either, and by asking open-ended questions that make others feel safe to share.

 

What Became of Robert?

 

Dr. Speers’s office represents a way of working flat—Speers had always trained his staff to speak up and share when something didn’t feel right. When Donna noticed something was off with Robert, she not only felt safe to go directly to her boss with her concerns but also (despite her initial concern being dismissed), she still knew she was safe to insist that something wasn’t right and needed to be addressed immediately.

 

Confronted with Donna’s concerns, Dr. Speers stopped the procedure he was working on and turned his attention to Robert.

 

After only a few questions, Speers had a good guess as to what was going on: Robert was in the middle of a serious heart attack. Speers sent him directly to the cardiac center of Toronto General Hospital, where he had an emergency triple-bypass surgery that saved his life.

 

How about that?! Working flat saved a life!

 

Does a cohesive, empowered, results-oriented team feel constantly out of your reach? ​Book a free 30-minute call with me​ to learn how to start creating the team you know you can have.

 

I love connecting with leaders, so the call is completely free. On the call, we’ll discuss the context driving your work and your goals for your team, and I’ll provide some strategies to help support you to drive results that make a positive impact on your business.

 

From the challenge of driving change at scale and tackling complex problems with teams that are constantly waiting for you to find solutions to the importance of creating psychological safety to empower teams that actually drive results, this call is designed to help you forge a more impactful leadership system.

 

I’d love to hear from you—​you can book your call with me here.

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Leading Change Requires Drama

Cue the flashbacks to middle school.

No, I don’t mean drama as in middle school drama. I mean dramatic as in spontaneous and emergent—dramatic because we don’t know what happens next!

Natural disasters, bar fights, first dates, exploration, and play are all dramatic events. They’re dramatic because you don’t know what’s going to happen next.

Contrast that with the theatrical. Theatrical events aren’t really real. Even if they seem real, the circumstances surrounding them are generally predetermined. They are scripted rather than emergent. The outcomes are bound—we already know all the possible ends from the beginning.

A lot of corporate work tends to be theatrical: Board meetings, strategy processes, PowerPoint decks, etc. They are business as usual—we know that aside from someone starting to snore, there won’t be any real surprises.

Dramatic events require us to respond in the moment and to be curious about the outcome.

Doing change work and solving complex problems requires drama, not theatricality.

Complex problems are more than just problems with a lot of moving pieces, they’re problems that require a collective understanding and a movement to action that exists beyond any one individual. They are beyond the ken of any one person or team to solve. The small details matter.

Advancing a complex problem requires co-creation. Believe it or not, this is a dramatic act. You don’t know what kind of reality others want to create, and you don’t know what will happen when you start to collaborate.

Drama embraces the unknown, and it is the way to get a system unstuck.

A lot of change work can benefit from leaders knowing how to shift a theatrical event into a dramatic one.

 

If you’re curious how a little drama can transform the way you approach complex problems, watch my short video, Complex Challenges Require Drama.

In it, I explain how letting go of your outcome expectations and replacing your reliance on predetermined solutions with a mindset of curiosity and flexibility will help you build trust and have a greater impact with your stakeholders.

Give it a watch!


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Leaders Need to Know It’s Not Their Fault

I work with leaders who are at a moment in their careers when they decide to take things to the next level, and I see the same struggles again and again:

 

  • Leaders who are daunted by the need to constantly lead change in their organization
  • Leaders who are frustrated with encountering resistance from others
  • Leaders who don’t know how to drive their vision forward, particularly when they’re a specialist in a bigger organization 

 

If this sounds like you, dear leader, here’s what I want you to know: 

 

It’s not your fault. 

 

Past a certain scale and complexity, you can’t lead through expertise or control.


You’re no longer facing technical challenges, you’re facing complex challenges, and you need to lead through these not by solving problems, but by building relationships and cultivating curiosity.  

 

You are doing the best you can with the tools that you have: a set of tools that has served you and your organizations incredibly well for your whole career, but now, you’re navigating growing complexity. The world can’t be easily understood anymore.

 

If you are someone who has led through control in the past, but now you recognize that answers are no longer enough, stop kicking yourself and watch my video:

Leaders Need to Know It’s Not Their Fault 

 

In this video, I share why so many of the leaders I work with transform their impact once they shift from expertise-based leadership to curiosity-driven leadership, and how you can do the same.  Answers are rarely the key to leading through complexity.  Instead, we need to grow our ability to influence others.  

 

You can’t be everywhere at once: answering every question, solving small problems, making sure everyone is following the new SOP — that will leave you stretched thin and unable to lead effectively.

 

That’s why I created The C.L.E.A.R. Path to Executive Leadership, a program crafted after in-depth research and work with hundreds of leaders at global organizations. The C.L.E.A.R. Path focuses on strengthening key skills that every leader benefits from: Curiosity, Listening, Empowerment, Accountability, and Results. 

 

If you are leading change, and this sounds like something that could help you with your challenge, I’d love to hear from you. Click here to book a free 30-minute diagnostic call with me where you can tell me about the challenges you’re facing. Together, we can talk about how you’re trying to create lasting change in your organization. 

 

Book a free call with me here.

 

We’ll talk about your challenges and what kind of support you might need for the next part of your journey. In half an hour you could be unlocking new dimensions of how you can lead.

 

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Rise of the Machines: How to Keep AI from Terminating Your Business

The era of machine learning is upon us, whether we want it or not. Every week provides us with new stories about developments in artificial intelligence, and new fears regarding its implications for us.

 

Driverless cars! Authorless stories! Cyber lawyers!

 

From the spectacular arrival of AI art programs like Midjourney and DALL-E to the even more earth-shattering evolution of ChatGPT, it is hard to imagine any industry being able to escape disruption by the inevitable rise of the machines.

 

Chatbots are passing the bar exam, helping students cheat, and assisting us in planning our travel itineraries. They can be taught to code, taught to order our favorite foods when we need them, they can even (terrifyingly) be taught to love.

 
Disruptions Happen.
 

The birth of AI is a thrilling but frightening thing to behold. Even in its early stages, we are already witnessing capabilities that seemed like pure sci-fi less than a decade ago, and its rate of evolution is so rapid it is almost impossible to predict where we will be ten years from now.

 

The legal industry is undergoing significant changes, with AI and legal chatbots being employed in contract review, drafting, dispute resolution, and predictive analytics.

 

These external shifts lead to internal disruptions within companies, necessitating changes in structure and management approaches that are required in response to industry pressures and competitive shifts. 

 

In the face of such a disruptive force, it’s easy to succumb to overwhelm, uncertainty, and a doom-and-gloom worldview. 

 

With artificial intelligence disrupting our industries, and even our art, what will be left for us to do? 

 

You may be left questioning:

 

As a senior leader, how can I prevent the introduction of AI from making my company defunct within my industry? What does it mean for my team and for the way we do business now?

 

The good news is, although we are approaching uncharted territory now, we have been in uncharted territory many times before, and while there are always winners and losers, agile actors find ways to rise to the top during times of disruption and upheaval. Less than thirty years ago, the internet came along and disrupted business as usual, as did the inventions of the personal computer and the pocket calculator before that, all the way back to 1450 AD and the invention of the printing press!

 

The Bleeding Edge

 

E-commerce platforms such as Amazon, Etsy, and Shopify continue to disrupt traditional retail, with Amazon using data from their operations to manufacture generic products, creating a unique feedback loop. To compete, some major retailers, like Walmart and Target built out robust online stores to coexist alongside their brick-and-mortar locations. Other companies, like Bed Bath and Beyond failed to capitalize on the growing market for online sales and are now paying the price. 

 

Entertainment and media were revolutionized by streaming services like Netflix, which brought movies directly to our TVs—often simultaneously with theatrical releases. This new business model brought about the end of the video store era and began to threaten the bottom line of many film studios and TV networks. Desperate to capitalize on the streaming market, or to hang on to as much of their IP as possible, networks like ABC and NBC are now hosting their own platforms, offering subscribers now-exclusive content that could previously be found on Netflix, Hulu, or Amazon Prime.

 

External shifts lead to internal disruptions within companies, necessitating changes in structure and management approaches that are required in response to industry pressures and competitive shifts. 

 

The point isn’t to resist that disruption is happening—it’s to learn how to work with it and how to get ahead of things. The strongest leaders are the ones who will be able to lead their organizations through the change of creative disruption. 

 

Facing the Unknown

 

GPT epitomizes the classical definition of disruptive innovation. It is inexpensive, often “good enough,” and has deep expertise in certain content areas. It is poised to revolutionize how we work with and process electronic data. If we want to stay relevant in our respective industries, we cannot run from the future, we need to learn how to embrace it.

 

To thrive amid disruption you need to understand resistance.

 

By paying attention to what’s disrupting your industry and learning to work with it skillfully, you can set yourself and your organization up for longevity and success. One of the key skills you need to succeed amid disruption is the ability to share what you see and work more skillfully with others’ resistance. 

 

By getting better at working with resistance, you’ll be able to react and respond to it more quickly. You’ll work with more ease—having fun instead of banging your head against the wall. And you’ll stand out as someone who’s able to lead your organization forward in challenging times.

 

I work with a lot of clients who I consider “visionary.” This doesn’t mean that they want to live on Mars (but boy does that guy need some support at keeping his stuff together), but it does mean that they see things about their organizations that others don’t see. A lot of these people start by swimming upstream—but there are techniques they can use.

 

Because leading through disruption is a team sport—it’s not something you can do alone, no matter how much power you have—you’ll have to bring others on the journey. 

 

Here are three things you might try if your team needs help adapting to new, “disruptive” tech:

  

  • Show Cause – If your folks can’t see the challenge that new technologies and ways of operating pose, they won’t be prepared to work with you on solutions. By paying attention to what’s disrupting your industry and learning how to point it out and explain the issue in easy-to-understand terms, you can set yourself and your organization up for longevity and success.
  • Start Small – I’m often talking with my clients about the minimum meaningful unit of experiment: the need to try a change on the smallest unit where you can gather meaningful data and get meaningful results.

    As you learn, you can go bigger, but changes that start big—especially in a fast-moving environment—often fail.
  • Listen Deeply Most leaders’ default approach to resistance is to try and overcome it, to get buy-in or, if that fails, to mandate that others comply with the change.

    “I know you don’t like this, but you have to sell it to your team. Eat your vegetables. They’re good for you. You’ll learn to like them.”


    This kind of power-based approach to getting things done has a place, but not when you need to change how you operate. Instead of trying to overcome resistance, engage with it.
    Start by using
    curiosity.

    “Here’s what I’m seeing; what are you seeing?”

    This approach creates the opportunity for a true dialogue, which builds relationships and enables you to lead others on their journey.

By getting better at working with resistance, you’ll be able to react and respond to it more quickly. You’ll work with more ease—because you’ll be having fun instead of banging your head against the wall, and you’ll stand out as someone who’s able to lead your organization forward into new frontiers.

 

If you’re someone who wants to lead your organization through all the changes that are required these days, start by engaging with the resistance you meet.

 

Learning to engage with resistance isn’t easy—it’s one of things I spend a lot of time coaching my clients through. But if you want a head start, check out this free short video: Understanding the Levels of Resistance.

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Are you daunted by the complexity of your work?

“So Sarah, you’re leading your organization through this big, complex transformation. Does that feel daunting?”

 

“It is! Oh my gosh, it’s so daunting!”

 

I distinctly remember my first conversation with Sarah, a capable leader who would become a longtime coaching client. Sarah was tasked with changing how her organization built software. She worked for a large and successful manufacturing company that used a host of legacy systems and processes. To compete in a rapidly changing competitive environment, the CEO and board of Sarah’s company recognized the need to rebuild their systems, and they tapped her to lead the transformation.

 

Common Traits of Successful Leaders

 

Like Sarah, almost every leader I work with has made it to where they are by having a solid foundation of technical skills. Sarah has a finance background, thinks fast, and is good with numbers. When we started working together, she told me she feels most comfortable working in a spreadsheet. Other clients shine as lawyers, engineers, or coders. They are all good at coming up with answers to problems. I bet you are, too!

 

Complex Problems vs. Complicated Problems

 

On the one hand, the ability to solve complex problems is a superpower. But, as you progress on your leadership journey, it can also be a liability. Leaders like you are asked to solve increasingly complex problems. Complex problems aren’t just bigger versions of complicated ones. They can’t be easily broken down into smaller, simpler problems. They have unpredictable outcomes even if you deeply understand the underlying principles. They lack a single solution, and the problems change as we tackle them, so they require flexible problem-solving approaches that account for emergent patterns.

 

The “Golden Age of Complexity”

 

All of this means that we can’t deliver a neat, tidy solution. These problems are beyond the ken of any single person or team to solve. They are chaotic (in the sense that small, impossible-to-track details matter). They require others to co-create a new reality — a bold and daring act. 

 

In Meltdown, we wrote about the arrival of the Black Death in the middle ages. In October 1347, a fleet of ships carrying infected sailors arrived in Sicily. Many sailors were already dead; others were coughing and vomiting blood. The epidemic — which would go on to kill tens of millions of people — moved rapidly along new shipping and trade routes. It spread through populations newly concentrated in cities. But we wouldn’t develop the technologies of epidemiology, antibiotics, or sanitation for centuries. We didn’t even have a theory of germs! This mismatch between challenge and tools led one historian to call the middle ages “the golden age of bacteria.” Today, we are in a golden age of complexity.

 

Challenges in Modern Leadership

 

I suspect that most of you are rooted in organizations that want to solve problems faster — when slowing down and deepening our understanding is what’s needed. Consequently, we face pressure to move faster, technologies that demand that we’re “always on,” and organizations that frequently shift priorities. Many of us work for bosses who model management-by-telling instead of leadership-as-listening.

 

The Importance of Vulnerability and Openness in Leadership

 

True leadership is fundamentally an act of vulnerability and openness. It’s about being curious about our impact on others so we can understand how we can serve them. We need space, time, and new ways to help us think and lead. Not many of us learn how to build solid relationships, facilitate meetings, work with strong feelings (our own and others!), delegate tasks, accept feedback, or work with an executive assistant to free up our calendars for our most important work.

 

Overcoming the Challenges: Sarah’s Transformation

 

So if you feel daunted, I want you to know that it’s not your fault. You are being asked to do a lot while facing forces and trends that are outside of all of our controls. A few weeks ago, Sarah and I wrapped up our work together. In leading her organization’s transformation, she herself transformed. Even as she was promoted to a more senior role with more visibility and more significant challenges, she told me that she’s never felt more confident.

 

She’s still a spreadsheet whiz, but she’s more comfortable wading into ambiguous problems that can’t be solved with Excel. She’s building stronger relationships with those around her. She’s learned to use curiosity to shape the direction of her organization and succeed in her role. And she’s led her growing team through a challenging reorganization with poise and composure.

 

Sarah’s journey makes me feel hopeful, and in the near future, I’ll write more about some of the specific approaches she took in our work together. 

 

But what about you? Which of the challenges above resonated with you?

 

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How do you get things done when you’re not in charge?

How often do you feel powerless at work? Like you’re being asked to do something that you can’t actually accomplish given your position and the rules around how your organization works.


If you’re like many of the leaders I work with, you’re often accountable for creating results beyond what’s under your direct control. And you’re embedded in a culture that demands answers to complex problems, like, yesterday.


That’s a paradox because having answers doesn’t actually help you influence others. In many cases, showing up with an answer actually creates resistance.


I run a monthly coaching group called Lead Curious that works with this challenge. Why is it called Lead Curious? Because the most effective way to expand your influence is by asking curious questions.


It seems counterintuitive, but it’s the secret weapon at the heart of my work with leaders of the world’s biggest and most interesting organizations.


If you’re trying to influence someone, you have to start by understanding what they care about. If you’re asking someone to do something for you, or give up something that they value, you need to build trust so that you are on the same team.


How can you do that?


Share your agenda… but start with theirs.


You have an agenda. Share it, but don’t hold it tightly.


“You probably know that I’ve been asked to support better collaboration across our teams, but before we get to that, I’d like to understand a little bit more about what’s up for you. What are the most important things you’re working on right now?”


Acknowledge challenges without offering solutions.


Many cultures don’t support this behavior, but it’s so important. You can even acknowledge those norms as you seek support:


“I know we love solutions. I wish I had a solution for this, but I feel stuck. What do you think are some of the barriers to collaborating?”


Name things, particularly feelings (and be curious about how those feelings land with others).


This one is my favorite because it is so simple. Sometimes simply saying things out loud helps us shift the conversation. For example, if you’re working with another team that appears to agree about an issue in principle but drags its feet on implementation, you can name that:


“We’ve all said that we agree that more collaboration is better, but I’m worried we’re not taking meaningful steps to resolve this situation. Do you all share that worry?”


It can be hard to be the first person to show vulnerability in a work culture that still considers it a weakness, but it’s disarming, and it builds trust—quickly.


When you can let go of showing up with the right answer, you can start to grow your influence and co-create solutions to complex challenges faster. You’ll learn that you have more power than you think you do.


There’s no trick to these approaches—but that doesn’t make them easy. They require practice and the willingness to experiment. So forward this to an interested colleague, find a good coach, and start practicing.


And if you’re interested in practicing these approaches with fellow leaders, the next session of Lead Curious will launch in late 2022. Stay tuned here.

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